To my brave families in Jamaica, especially those raising our extraordinary special needs children,
My heart aches to hear of the difficult time you are having in the wake of Hurricane Melissa. I know, perhaps more than most, how incredibly hard it is to maintain routine, access necessary resources, and simply keep everything together, even on a regular day. Add the devastation and stress of a storm like this, and the burden you carry is unimaginable.
Please know that you are not alone. From here in the USA, I am holding you all close in prayer, wishing I could be there to help you clean up and rebuild.
Remember Your Strength
You are Jamaican mothers and fathers. You have already shown immense strength, resourcefulness, and resilience by navigating the unique challenges of raising a child like my son, AJ. You have a spirit that does not break. Hold onto that spirit now more than ever.
Be Gentle with Yourselves: It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, to cry, and to be frustrated. These are not signs of weakness; they are a sign that you are human and you are carrying a heavy load. Take a moment, even just five minutes, to breathe for yourself.
Lean on Your Community: In Jamaica, we are known for our strong community spirit—our “one one cocoa full basket” mentality. Don’t be afraid to ask a neighbour or a family member for a meal, a few hours of respite, or just an ear to listen. Even small acts of kindness can lighten the load.
Focus on the Day: The task of rebuilding can seem too big. For now, focus only on what you can manage today. Focus on the smallest victory: a moment of calm, finding a needed supply, or your child’s laughter. My funny 3-year-old, Josiah, reminds me every day how important those small joys are.
A Special Word for Our Children
Our children may be experiencing the trauma of the storm and the change in routine in ways we can’t always see. They need extra patience and love now. Don’t worry about ‘perfect’ therapy or education right now—focus on safety, comfort, and connection. A hug is therapy. A familiar song is routine. Your calm presence is the greatest resource you can provide.
I am actively looking for ways to support aid organizations that are helping our special needs community back home, and I will share any resources I find.
Continue to be the brave, tireless warriors you are. We see you. We support you. We love you.
One day at a time, we will all get through this, stronger and more united than before.
With deepest love and solidarity,
Nicola Lloyd
Wife and Mom (AJ’s Mom and Josiah’s Mom)
Our Journey 